**Links to**: [[08 Active ignorance]]. ![[affect alien, ahmed.png]] “If you do not participate in something, if you do not laugh when others laugh, you stand out. Perhaps some people laugh in order not to stand out. To stand out can mean to be targeted. If those who do not participate in harassment are targeted, one method for avoiding being harassed is to participate in it.” (Ahmed, 2023, p. 30). “What you try to stop, others don’t see. And so, you have to keep saying _no_. And the more you say _no_, the more you show or indicate in some way that you don’t agree with something, the more you are pressed upon to say no, _not_ to say anything, _not_ to do anything.” (ibid. pp. 31-2). “We have to keep saying it because they keep doing it. ... Being insistent is a reflection of how the same things keep coming up.” (ibid. p. 40).